Posts Tagged: western church

Large Scale Spiritual Abuse Caused by Evangelical Leaders Under Trump

Spiritual Abuse is Devastating   Emma Green, staff writer for the Atlantic, wrote a lovely piece on Feb 11th about how Shannon Dingle, mother of six children, had just been forced to resign from a conservative Christian organization because she had expressed opposing views about Donald Trump. In the article, story after story illustrated how… Read more »

A Letter to Joshua Harris – Let This Shape You, not Shame You

Hey Joshua – You’ve been on my mind these last few weeks since you publicly ‘came out’ and apologized for the impact of your books. I have admired your willingness to listen to the stories – the profound pain and anger. It is searing and immense and devastating. I feel the radiation of shame you must feel. … Read more »

The 3 Ways Removing Sexuality from Spirituality has Made us Bad Lovers

  The other day I was being interviewed for an upcoming podcast and was asked the number one issue I see in my practice.  I said it was couples complaining of having bad sex – not enough … quantity, pleasure, variety, intimacy … you name it. I made the point that our culture raises heterosexuals… Read more »

In Pursuit of a Sex Positive Gospel …. Restoring Faith in an Erotic God

  As a sex therapist, I commonly see couples who have experienced various forms of sexual dysfunction due to their extensive sex negative cultural and religious upbringing. After observing this pattern, I sought to find the sex positive message I believed to be hidden in the dusty vault of Judeo/Christian collective history. Teaching at a… Read more »

How the Purity Movement Causes Symptoms of Sexual Abuse

I put the paper down.  I was 15 papers in with 17 to go – sexual autobiography assignments of my graduate family therapy students. It was the second paper I had read in the last two hours of a young woman who had pelvic pain and vaginismus.  My stomach was in knots.  How many of these… Read more »

Are You “At Home” in Your Body? An interview …

Several months ago, I was interviewed by Jonalyn Fincher at Soulation on the impact of religious sexual shame on our ability to be ‘at home’ in our bodies and with our sexuality and sexual longing.  I love conversations with Jonalyn. They are always fun and provocative.  We both have a passionate belief that God created us… Read more »

Do You Tell Your Kids the Truth? (about sex)

I grew up in a household where both my parents did anger in big and expressive ways.  As luck would have it, I was an introverted, happy-go-lucky, but sensitive kid.  This combo meant I learned very quickly to watch and read the emotional climate of my parents – and if the boilers were high, stay… Read more »