Posts Tagged: shame

Limited Offer … Limited Supply!! Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Sexual Shame! #endreligioussexualshame

AMAZING ENDORSEMENTS FOR SEX, GOD, & THE CONSERVATIVE CHURCH! Whether you were affected by the church’s negative view of sex, or you are a clinician who works with people whose sexual experience has been diminished, many have been waiting for this book for years! The wait is almost over! LIMITED SUPPLY … the publisher will likely… Read more »

Shame and Sex in America

Here is a question I received from a reader: “When I look at culture in this country, I see a lot of shame. Shame that is attached to sexuality in a fear-based and pathologizing fashion that doesn’t seem to be as present in other cultures in the same way. As you and Carl Jung suggest,… Read more »

Desire … is it of God?

Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. – Ps 37:4 Song of Songs 1:2-4 Let him kiss me with kisses of his mouth For better is your love than wine, Your anointing oils are fragrant, Your name is better than perfume poured out. Therefore women love you!… Read more »

Why Trump and the Purity Movement Are Both Bad for Your Health

You may wonder how we got to a place where 60+ million people when presented with all evidence could possibly be willing to vote for someone so blatantly and irrevocably incompetent and against their own and their countries best interest.  This certainly did not happen overnight.  I mean, after all, we are a bright and… Read more »

A Letter to Joshua Harris – Let This Shape You, not Shame You

Hey Joshua – You’ve been on my mind these last few weeks since you publicly ‘came out’ and apologized for the impact of your books. I have admired your willingness to listen to the stories – the profound pain and anger. It is searing and immense and devastating. I feel the radiation of shame you must feel. … Read more »

5 Ways You May be Slowly Destroying Your Husband and Your Marriage

These days, while I still have a clinical practice, I do even more clinical supervision (helping other clinicians to be better couples, sex and spiritual intimacy therapists).  The other day I was staffing a case with one of my supervisees that was all too familiar.  It was of a couple married 23 years with two… Read more »

How the Purity Movement Causes Symptoms of Sexual Abuse

I put the paper down.  I was 15 papers in with 17 to go – sexual autobiography assignments of my graduate family therapy students. It was the second paper I had read in the last two hours of a young woman who had pelvic pain and vaginismus.  My stomach was in knots.  How many of these… Read more »