Posts Tagged: pleasure

2014 … And Your 30 Day Challenge

“In truth, the dramatics of a life-determining experience are often unbelievably soft. It has so little akin to the bang, the flash, or the volcanic eruption that, at the moment it is made, the experience is often not even noticed. When it deploys its revolutionary effect and plunges a life into a brand-new light giving… Read more »

How Not Having Sex Can Make You a Better Lover

A few weeks ago I was having one of those conversations with a twenty something about sex … when, why, how do you know, do you wait, why, etc., etc. We talked about all the reasons given at church and the weird way a couple who supposedly “waited” is celebrated – as if everyone was… Read more »

Why I Believe We Under Estimate the Heart of Men …

Below is a letter written by a man about why he wanted to accompany his wife to a couples intimacy retreat and why the weekend was of value.  It is a ‘voice’ we don’t often hear … and yet it is the heart of so many men I know.  A man who loves his partner and family with… Read more »

Lessons From A Failed Marriage

Sometimes I come across things I think are sooo brilliant I just HAVE TO re-blog them.  This is one.  It is a bit tragic … but A LOT poignant.  From the ashes of two failed marriages the wisdom below is born … and it is nothing short of finding a million dollars hiding in your mattress.  For those… Read more »

The Four Cornerstones to Successful Dating

I recently got a lovely comment from a reader describing how she had been working to reclaim her body as beautiful, lovely, wonderful … sexual … filled with glorious desire … created good.  Not dangerous, to be doubted, feared, stuffed, shamed, damned, hidden, apologized for.  She went on to say that now she was venturing into the world… Read more »

Going LIVE (not livid) on Sex, Gender and Christianity …

Have you ever found yourself absolutely confused or angry about the messages sent to women about their bodies, sexuality, their value?  Even the messages we send to men seem confusing, limiting and degrading. Life lately has invited me again into these conversations of confusion and frustration. A few months back I received an email from… Read more »

Why Snuggling Is Good Breakfast Food When You Don’t Want to Go to Work

So many of the couples I sit with in my clinical practice are trying to do this contemporary urban dance we call ‘normal life’.  Two adults working, kids doing school, sports, music, community service.  Then there is the new, rambling, demanding, and overwhelming influx of choices cascading on us through social media, TV, phones, email, radio …… Read more »