Posts Tagged: marriage

Limited Offer … Limited Supply!! Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Sexual Shame! #endreligioussexualshame

AMAZING ENDORSEMENTS FOR SEX, GOD, & THE CONSERVATIVE CHURCH! Whether you were affected by the church’s negative view of sex, or you are a clinician who works with people whose sexual experience has been diminished, many have been waiting for this book for years! The wait is almost over! LIMITED SUPPLY … the publisher will likely… Read more »

A Theology of Sexual Justice – Musings on Sex, Communion and Justice …

  On bread and wine On people and place On God and sex On communion and justice   On Orcas Island reading: Divine Communion – Jay Emerson Johnson Erotic Justice – A Liberating Ethic of Sexuality – Marvin Ellison   Today’s questions – What do people want to say about the theological, spiritual and personal… Read more »

30 Day Challenge – Save Your Marriage from the Tyranny of the Urgent

The other day, I was talking to a young colleague of mine – freshly minted with a marriage and a thriving clinical practice.  Life was busy and good … and all laid out.  A new house and kids were next on the agenda. “Yep, and then” I thought, “life gets nutso!!” Listening to her was… Read more »

The 3 Ways Removing Sexuality from Spirituality has Made us Bad Lovers

  The other day I was being interviewed for an upcoming podcast and was asked the number one issue I see in my practice.  I said it was couples complaining of having bad sex – not enough … quantity, pleasure, variety, intimacy … you name it. I made the point that our culture raises heterosexuals… Read more »

The DNA of a Couple vs the DNA of a Couple’s Therapist

When couples think of the skills needed to keep their love vibrant, they often think of having good communication, high emotional, social and sexual intelligence, good conflict resolution and negotiation skills, and a strong alignment of values and interests.  If we did not grow up in a family emulating these qualities for us, we often have… Read more »

Do You Still Kiss Each Other? Does it Matter?

  The Hebrew people believe a kiss is two people sharing the breath of God. As many know the beloved and I run couples intimacy retreats and thus are constantly asking questions about what differentiates happy couples from unhappy ones.  Lately we have been reading the results of a large international study analyzing the surprising… Read more »

How Sleeping Naked Can Save Your Marriage … And Why Talking Comes Last

  A while ago the beloved and I got in a doozy of an argument.  Now, our arguments are not like four-alarm fires that cause everyone to run for the hills.  That type belonged in my childhood and first marriage.  Our conflicts are a bit more like an oceanic earthquake whose eruption is tempered by… Read more »

5 Ways You May be Slowly Destroying Your Husband and Your Marriage

These days, while I still have a clinical practice, I do even more clinical supervision (helping other clinicians to be better couples, sex and spiritual intimacy therapists).  The other day I was staffing a case with one of my supervisees that was all too familiar.  It was of a couple married 23 years with two… Read more »