Emily Negoski talks about the core goal of her book, Come as You Are, to help people live with more confidence and joy. Toward the end of the book, while talking about why she wrote the book, she says this, “In a way it is a small goal. I’m not trying to cure… Read more »
I had the opportunity to do a fun interview with Michelle and Tony Peterson of the #staymarried Podcast on the Sexy Side of Marriage. In it I talk about how to keep your marriage dynamic and erotic, what makes some therapists better than others, the Passion for Life Couple’s Intimacy Retreats, why you want to provide your child… Read more »
It was the first night of our last Passion for Life Couples Intimacy Retreat. The room was softly lit and around the room sat 12 couples – all with appetizers and a glass of champagne. They had been married anywhere from 2 years to 35. “Raise your hand if you knew exactly what… Read more »
Shari sits in my office and tells me a story I have heard countless times. She and David have two small children, five and three. Shari is what we call “the low desire partner” in their marriage. Although, I am not sure that is a fair or accurate label. Both sit on the couch stiff… Read more »
The Hebrew people believe a kiss is two people sharing the breath of God. As many know the beloved and I run couples intimacy retreats and thus are constantly asking questions about what differentiates happy couples from unhappy ones. Lately we have been reading the results of a large international study analyzing the surprising… Read more »
I was reading a piece by Shauna Nyquist this morning titled “How we feel about our friends doesn’t matter” … if we don’t do anything to let them know. She makes the point that what makes a good partner or good friend is the one who routinely demonstrates their care and appreciation in word and… Read more »
A while ago the beloved and I got in a doozy of an argument. Now, our arguments are not like four-alarm fires that cause everyone to run for the hills. That type belonged in my childhood and first marriage. Our conflicts are a bit more like an oceanic earthquake whose eruption is tempered by… Read more »
As a sex therapist, I commonly see couples who have experienced various forms of sexual dysfunction due to their extensive sex negative cultural and religious upbringing. After observing this pattern, I sought to find the sex positive message I believed to be hidden in the dusty vault of Judeo/Christian collective history. Teaching at a… Read more »