Posts Categorized: marriage

Limited Offer … Limited Supply!! Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Sexual Shame! #endreligioussexualshame

AMAZING ENDORSEMENTS FOR SEX, GOD, & THE CONSERVATIVE CHURCH! Whether you were affected by the church’s negative view of sex, or you are a clinician who works with people whose sexual experience has been diminished, many have been waiting for this book for years! The wait is almost over! LIMITED SUPPLY … the publisher will likely… Read more »

Why Trump and the Purity Movement Are Both Bad for Your Health

You may wonder how we got to a place where 60+ million people when presented with all evidence could possibly be willing to vote for someone so blatantly and irrevocably incompetent and against their own and their countries best interest.  This certainly did not happen overnight.  I mean, after all, we are a bright and… Read more »

Podcast – #staymarried Blog – The Sexy Side of Marriage

I had the opportunity to do a fun interview with Michelle and Tony Peterson of the #staymarried Podcast on the Sexy Side of Marriage.  In it I talk about how to keep your marriage dynamic and erotic, what makes some therapists better than others, the Passion for Life Couple’s Intimacy Retreats, why you want to provide your child… Read more »

A Theology of Sexual Justice – Musings on Sex, Communion and Justice …

  On bread and wine On people and place On God and sex On communion and justice   On Orcas Island reading: Divine Communion – Jay Emerson Johnson Erotic Justice – A Liberating Ethic of Sexuality – Marvin Ellison   Today’s questions – What do people want to say about the theological, spiritual and personal… Read more »

30 Day Challenge – Save Your Marriage from the Tyranny of the Urgent

The other day, I was talking to a young colleague of mine – freshly minted with a marriage and a thriving clinical practice.  Life was busy and good … and all laid out.  A new house and kids were next on the agenda. “Yep, and then” I thought, “life gets nutso!!” Listening to her was… Read more »

The 3 Ways Removing Sexuality from Spirituality has Made us Bad Lovers

  The other day I was being interviewed for an upcoming podcast and was asked the number one issue I see in my practice.  I said it was couples complaining of having bad sex – not enough … quantity, pleasure, variety, intimacy … you name it. I made the point that our culture raises heterosexuals… Read more »

Getting it On vs. Getting it Over With. Does It Matter Why You Do It?

Shari sits in my office and tells me a story I have heard countless times.  She and David have two small children, five and three. Shari is what we call “the low desire partner” in their marriage.  Although, I am not sure that is a fair or accurate label.  Both sit on the couch stiff… Read more »