Made in the Image of God … sexually???

      What does it mean to be made in the image of God when we think about our sexuality? It seems in order to answer this, I have to wonder again what sexuality is. Or what it is as it relates to the image of God. Sexuality is not something I have, it… Read more »


Desire … is it of God?

Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. – Ps 37:4 Song of Songs 1:2-4 Let him kiss me with kisses of his mouth For better is your love than wine, Your anointing oils are fragrant, Your name is better than perfume poured out. Therefore women love you!… Read more »


Why Trump and the Purity Movement Are Both Bad for Your Health

You may wonder how we got to a place where 60+ million people when presented with all evidence could possibly be willing to vote for someone so blatantly and irrevocably incompetent and against their own and their countries best interest.  This certainly did not happen overnight.  I mean, after all, we are a bright and… Read more »


A Letter to Joshua Harris – Let This Shape You, not Shame You

Hey Joshua – You’ve been on my mind these last few weeks since you publicly ‘came out’ and apologized for the impact of your books. I have admired your willingness to listen to the stories – the profound pain and anger. It is searing and immense and devastating. I feel the radiation of shame you must feel. … Read more »


Podcast – #staymarried Blog – The Sexy Side of Marriage

I had the opportunity to do a fun interview with Michelle and Tony Peterson of the #staymarried Podcast on the Sexy Side of Marriage.  In it I talk about how to keep your marriage dynamic and erotic, what makes some therapists better than others, the Passion for Life Couple’s Intimacy Retreats, why you want to provide your child… Read more »


A Theology of Sexual Justice – Musings on Sex, Communion and Justice …

  On bread and wine On people and place On God and sex On communion and justice   On Orcas Island reading: Divine Communion – Jay Emerson Johnson Erotic Justice – A Liberating Ethic of Sexuality – Marvin Ellison   Today’s questions – What do people want to say about the theological, spiritual and personal… Read more »


30 Day Challenge – Save Your Marriage from the Tyranny of the Urgent

The other day, I was talking to a young colleague of mine – freshly minted with a marriage and a thriving clinical practice.  Life was busy and good … and all laid out.  A new house and kids were next on the agenda. “Yep, and then” I thought, “life gets nutso!!” Listening to her was… Read more »