Do you ever wish you had a ‘marriage cheat sheet’? … a few ‘easy to remember’ tips that would help keep your love strong? In a world that squeezes out fun and crams in more demands … what really makes a difference for those that stay ‘in love’ and those that ‘fall out of love’? In a love and marriage survey of over 8,000 participants over 50, couples who were the happiest shared these secrets …
1. 73% of the happiest couples indulge in public displays of affection at least a couple of times a month. Tip … find your inner racy teenager … add some thrill by laying on a juicy kiss at a park or restaurant. Seeing a couple display their affection is infectious and generally makes other people happy.
2. Among the happiest couples, 85% say “I love you” at least once a week. Who says it more, men or women? Men! More than 90% of men say those 3 sweet words regularly, while 58% of women do. Tip … if you want to raise the temperature of your love, express your heart often!
3. 74% of the happiest couples exchange a passionate kiss at least once a week, while 38% of dissatisfied couples do not kiss passionately at all anymore. Tip … deep slow hugs and passionate kisses release ‘feel good’ brain chemicals and unite us emotionally. When passionate intentional touch is shared regularly it feels like a deep breath – like coming home.
4. Of the “extremely happy” couples, 88% plan regular alone time while 32% of disengaged couples say they “never” or “hardly ever” have date nights. Tip … couples need time to relax and have fun together. This is the kind of time most couples had together when they fell in love, and it is the nourishment you regularly need to keep that ‘connected’ feeling.
Put together, the happiest couples, say it, show it, and carve out time for it … just like they did when they were dating or first married. What nourished those ‘feel good’ emotions in the beginning can continue to keep you coming back for more. There are many areas of life we put ongoing effort – preparing nutritious food, time to be active, time with a friend. To keep the love juices flowing … To make more love … you need to act on it publicly and privately, with heart and body … often! Here’s your perfect excuse to focus on more fun and more pleasure. Your love requires it!
If your love could use a little (or a lot) of TLC … consider joining our next Passion 4 Life Couples Intimacy Retreat in September. Nothing transforms a marriage and ignites the flame like this retreat. It will give your marriage what you have been longing for!